In my previous blog, I made the case that sometimes the logical, moral, and practical option is to do B-minus (B-) work. This can feel excruciatingly difficult if you are tempted by perfectionism. I was reminded of this recently when I tried to write an article on goal-setting. The article was due in a few […]

In a recent coaching call, one of the participants in Launch 2021 shared that he was overscheduled. He had added in an “artist’s date,” three hours of drawing work, to an already busy schedule. He was enjoying the drawing time, but now it seemed that every minute of his day was scheduled. Life was becoming […]

Often when you set goals, you wind up with a dry statement of something you think you should do. Goals should be juicy! They should be as appealing as a ripe peach. After all, they are your goals. They are to contribute to your life. Just as you choose food that is both tasty and nutritious, choose goals that […]

If you’ve been following my work, you know that I recommend you motivate yourself entirely by values, not by threats. This means throwing out “duty” as a way to get yourself to do an important but unappealing task. By a “duty,” I mean an out-of-context rule or absolute. If you do tasks on your “to do” […]

It’s important to celebrate achievements. I’d like to take a moment to celebrate mine, my clients’, and yours. First mine. I give talks, put out this newsletter, and run the Thinking Lab because I want to share the life-serving ideas that I have discovered. I have been striving for years to improve the way I […]

  The Ayn Rand Institute has made available a talk I gave on “motivation by love” at the 2019 Objectivist Conferences (OCON). This talk was for an audience of Ayn Rand fans, so it assumes a context that not all readers of the site will have. But I think it is generally accessible. If it […]

One of my friends has a beautiful flower garden behind her house. Every flower, plant, and object is there by design. The planning of a garden is a perfect analogy to setting your goals for the year.  First, you don’t make plans for a garden or set next year’s goals in a vacuum. You start […]

Every New Year’s Day,  I run a “Thinking Day” in the Thinking Lab, to provide coaching for members who are setting goals for the new year. To make sure you set goals from a position of strength, I recommend you systematically review all the past year’s accomplishments before deciding what to do next year.  There […]

People often ask me how to make themselves do something they think they’re supposed to do. As a public service, I will answer that question. To make yourself do something, you need to shut out any thoughts that conflict with taking the action. That includes any thoughts that might distract you or change your mind […]

Two days ago, I got my email inbox down to zero, for the first time in at least 18 months. Several times in the last few months, I had gotten down to 40 lagging emails, but never to zero. The story of my getting to zero is a case study in how a change in […]

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