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All About Emotions (series)
#13: A Model for How Emotions Are Triggered
Tuesday, 12/5 3 pm ET
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Monday, 12/11 3pm ET
Tuesday, 12/12 3 pm ET
#14: The Importance of Understanding Emotions
Tuesday, 12/19 8 pm ET
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Is this you?
• You don’t mind working hard, but you hate discovering that your time was wasted.
• You are proud of having high expectations for yourself, but you notice that unrealistic expectations sometimes undercut your enjoyment of success.
• You try to focus on priorities, but you may still get bogged down in the minutiae of life.
You’re in the right place if you want to own your time so you can spend it on what matters most.
There is a dirty secret in all of those productivity systems you’ve tried out. They don’t work unless you adapt them to your particular situation. A new kind of “to do” list may be great advice—for someone with a different job description. A planning strategy might be useful—if you could clear an hour a week to implement it. A tracking system might make all the difference—if you didn’t find it overwhelming to maintain.
You probably know that setting unrealistic goals leads to predictable struggle. But it’s a lot easier to see that someone else’s goal is unrealistic than to set your own direction. It’s a lot easier to sit in an armchair and speculate on someone else’s mistakes than it is to untangle your own feelings. It’s a lot easier to blame failure on external factors than to see what changes you need to make to get a different result.
Other people’s productivity systems won’t work for you unless you understand how to apply their general ideas to your specific situation.
That takes thinking–thinking that no one can do in your place. Decision-making. Goal-setting. Problem-solving. All of these are needed to make your productivity system work for you.
I am, by training, an engineer. Engineers turn theoretical ideas into practical solutions to real-life problems. That is what I do with productivity tools. I can teach you to do it, too.
To help make sense out of the conflicting time management advice, I’ve developed a simple model for developing productivity:
- When you take the right kind of action, Focused Action, you are assured of some success.
- With the right definition of success, Objective Success, your success will motivate you to put in another unit of effort.
- With the right kind of motivation, Authentic Motivation, your motivation will increase as a result of effort, not peter out.
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If you are in a major transition in your life — a career transition, or a change of phase, or an adjustment of your direction — you need objectivity about your deepest, most meaningful goals. You might want to consider writing your own eulogy to help clarify your...
A while ago, I read an interesting book called The Magic Lamp: Goal Setting for People Who Hate Goals by Keith Ellis. Much of his approach is compatible with mine. Here is a clever tactic of his for using your skill at procrastination as a power for good. The problem...
If you've been reading my newsletter for a long time, you know I advocate motivating yourself by values, not threats. In the simplest cases, this just requires introspecting your obvious emotions to identify the values landscape, meaning the values around you and the...
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