Do not make any New Year’s Resolutions this year.
At least, not unless you’re mentally ready for the commitment. How can you tell? Here are three tests:
Is your goal concrete and specific? A goal to do “more” with friends is vague. It would be better to plan to have two get-togethers a month.
Make sure you know exactly what success means, or you’ll likely drift into failure.
Have you worked out the steps you’ll take? For example, if you are resolving to exercise three times a week, you need to know what time of day you’ll do it and what kind of exercise you’ll do. It often takes some experimenting to find out what is doable for you.
Make sure you have figured out doable steps to achieve your goal, so you can hit the ground running.
What will this new activity replace? Next year, you will still be allotted only 24 hours a day. To start a new activity you have to cut out an old one. What will be supplanted? TV time? Housecleaning? Sleep? Lunch with friends? Work?
Make sure your new activity edges out something less important, or you’ll decide to quit.
In short, make sure your resolution is clear, doable, and important before you commit to it.
If you’re not mentally ready to make your resolution on January 1, I suggest starting a New Year’s Campaign to learn how to achieve that important goal: what concrete, specific form it will take, what doable steps will lead you to it, and what less important activity it will replace. You can always set a mid-year resolution once you know your goal is clear, doable, and important.
Happy New Year!